Friday, March 20, 2009


I am so frustrated right now that I want to scream at the top of my lungs and not stop for at least ten minutes. I want to go back to my room and beat the living crap out of my heavy bag, but I have the ending of a migraine, and I don't think that would make it feel any better.
I have a child who cannot stand to have her work corrected. 
Regardless of if she has no understanding of what she's doing, regardless of if she's frustrated out of her GOURD, and has NO IDEA what she is doing, if I try and help her, SHE GETS MAD AND TAKES HER FRUSTRATION OUT ON ME.
Heaven forBID that I try and help her understand what she's doing, she'd rather flail along like a fish out of water and just get more frustrated. 

And then, if I make a suggestion like, "Hey, honey, why don't you just go and sit in your room for a couple of minutes, get away from your math and then come back to see you understand it a little better." I'm met with, "Well, THAT won't help!"
She wants me to GIVE her the answer, of course, rather than guide her to find the answer herself. 
It. Drives. Me. INSANE.
I really think I'm going to lose my mind.


Julie Heritage said...

You don't have to homeshcool to deal with that....we definitely see that during homework time. Especially the "just give me the answer" deal. When either of them asks me for an answer, I always respond with a question back to them to help them arrive where they are going. Also...remember to parent in times of non-conflict. That really helps with Chandler. Later in the afternoon when he is eating a snack or sitting calmly and we can chat, I bring up the problems from before and tell him I want to visit with him about his attitude. Seems to work better. I feel for you girl. Especially wanting to punch something. Glad Reilly escaped unscathed...I can't say the same for my kids sometimes.

Heather the Mama Duk said...

I'm sorry. Ani used to be like that. Good luck!